Ucwaningo 'lokunamathiselwe okuvikelekile'

Ngokwesizindalwazi se-PLOS One, lapho kushicilelwa khona ucwaningo luka-Alice Potter kanye noDaniel Mills, lubandakanya amapheya angamakati angamashumi amabili. Amakati abekwe emakamelweni amabili anezihlalo ezimbili (esomgadi nesinye esomuntu angamazi) kanye namathoyizi ekati namafasitela amboziwe. Ikhamera yevidiyo iqophe ukuxhumana phakathi kwekati ngalinye, umnakekeli kanye nomuntu angamazi ngesikhathi sokuziphatha okuhlukahlukene (umnakekeli ehamba futhi ebuya, isihambi esihambayo nesibuyayo, njll.) Abacwaningi basebenzisa ukuhlolwa okwaziwa ngele-“Ainsworth Strange Situation” ukuze balinganise ukuziphatha kwamakati mayelana nokuthi amakati abonakala esondelene kangakanani nabanakekeli bawo.

Imiphumela yocwaningo 'Yokunamathiselwe Okuvikelekile'

Abacwaningi bathola ukuthi amakati esivivinyweni aye azwakalisa amazwi amaningi lapho umnakekeli wawo ehamba, uma kuqhathaniswa nomuntu angamazi ehamba, kodwa “abazange babone noma yibuphi ubufakazi obengeziwe obubonisa ukuthi isibopho phakathi kwekati nombheki siwukunamathelana okuvikelekile.”

Abacwaningi bathola ngempela ukuthi "izici eziningi zokuziphatha kwamakati ... azihambisani nezici zokunamathiselwe." Kodwa-ke, baphinde baphawula ukuthi ukuhlolwa akuzange kubhekisise ukuthi ingabe ukhona yini umehluko ekunamathiselweni phakathi kwamakati angaphakathi kuphela nangaphakathi/ngaphandle, futhi baphinde baphawula ukuthi ukuhlola abakusebenzisayo kungenzeka ukuthi bekungelona ithuluzi elisebenzayo lokunquma amakati ' okunamathiselwe kubagadi. Ngokuqondile, basho ukuthi “...asifuni ukusho ukuthi amakati awakhi uhlobo oluthile lobudlelwano bothando bomphakathi noma isibopho nabanikazi bawo…ukuthi nje ubudlelwano nomnakekeli oyinhloko abubonakali ngokuthanda kwalowo muntu ngokusekelwe kulokho. zihlinzeka ngokuphepha nokuvikeleka kwekati.”

Kusho ukuthini ngempela konke lokhu?

Okushiwo lokhu ukuthi amakati awabonisi uhlobo olufanayo lokunamathela kubagadi bazo okwenziwa izinja ngokubona umgadi njengomthombo wokuphepha futhi abonise ukuziphatha okwengeziwe esingakubiza ngokuthi “ukuzimela.” Lokhu akusho nakancane ukuthi amakati awabujabuleli ubudlelwano bawo nabanakekeli bawo - avele afune ubungane bomuntu ngezizathu ezihlukene nangezindlela ezihlukene zamacanine.

Isibonelo, ucwaningo lwathola ukuthi lapho kusetshenziswa ukuhlolwa kwe-Ainsworth nezinja, ukuma ngasemnyango, lapho umqaphi ephume khona, kwakuyisinyathelo esibalulekile sokunquma ukunamathela kanye nokukhathazeka ngokuhlukana. Abazange bakubone lokhu kuziphatha phakathi kwamakati ocwaningweni, kodwa lokho kungase kungabi ngenxa yokuthi amakati awakukhumbuli - abacwaningi baphawula ukuthi lokhu kungase kube ngenxa yokuthi “amakati awabonisi ukucindezeleka ngale ndlela.”

Phakathi kwenethiwekhi yokuxhumana yekati, awuboni uhlobo olufanayo lwezibopho zomphakathi eziqinile ozozibona emaqenjini ezinja. Lokhu kungase kube ngenxa yokuthi amakati angabazingeli ababodwa futhi angadingi ukusondelana namaqembu omphakathi ukuze aphile.

Ngokungafani nezinja, osekunesikhathi eside zisebenza futhi zihlala nabantu, amakati awabheki kubantu ngezidingo zawo zansuku zonke. Kodwa-ke, benza ngokucacile izibopho zomphakathi nabanikazi bazo futhi babonise ukuziphatha "kothando", kanye nokuncamela um(aba)gadi bawo kunabantu abangebona abendlu. Ngamafuphi, ungavumeli izihloko zezindaba ezihehayo zikwenze ungabaze uthando lwekati lakho.

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